For anyone who has been on a
first date empathy can be felt with this story.
I can remember the first date I had with my wife. For some reason I felt the very large need to
impress. After all, I didn’t want her
running away from me screaming, never wanting to see my face again. So, throughout the date I asked her questions
such as, “What’s your favorite color?” and “What music do you like to listen
to?” Later on in the date I drove her
into the country to watch the sun set.
While the sun was going down I broke out the sparkling grape juice and
asked her to dance with me to the music we had playing. She said no, which wasn’t a good sign of
things.
On the surface these types of
things seem innocent enough because I was just trying to get to know her and
her me. But the problem was that I was
trying to get to know this beautiful girl by scratching the surface. And what seemed to me a way to impress her only
scared her to death. I barely knew her
and I was asking her to dance.
Thankfully I learned my lesson and over the next number of months we
began to get to know each other in a deeper way that wasn’t forced.
In my attempt to impress I
lost sight of who I really was. And one
reason I was reluctant to be authentic with my future wife was that I was
scared that if she saw who I really was she would never come around me
again. The mask I wore was not me. It was what I wanted her to see. And it certainly was not authentic.
We all desire authentic
relationships, but what do these types of relationships look like and how do
they come about? Do we wear a “mask”
with the intention of hiding our true selves?
It is our desire as God’s people to be a church that has authentic
relationships with others so that disciples of Christ will be made.
Join us this week as we
explore what God’s Word has to say about authentic relationships as a disciple
of Jesus Christ. May the Spirit reveal
His truth to us and may we have the courage to be authentic to one another as His
people so the glory of God can be seen by others.
By the way, after my wife and
I were married it was normal for us to go out to watch the sun set and the
stars come out while drinking sparkling grape juice. And we have danced many times since.